When I started working in a corporate MNC after 2 years of stay in the hospital after my accident in 1994, I was saying yes to many things in the job. May be some of the reasons would be “ I wanted to please people”, “ Hesitant to say no to boss” etc.
The day I started say “No” to certain things, I was able to focus better and become more productive. This even helped me to get promotion very fast and contribute more to my work.
Sometimes my physical limitation limits me doing many things. What I have learnt in my life is, one can be still be effective in the life and become unstoppable if one knows where to focus one’s time daily in the life.
I have to spend my time carefully and focus on right things everyday so that I earn my living , focussing on my life coaching work which helps me to get income to take care of me and my adopted son’s needs.
At the same time it brings great amount of fulfilment that I am also making difference in others lives helping them to become unstoppable , despite me being in the wheel chair since 26 years.
Recently one of my client was sharing same issue with me in his job. He mentioned he has to do many things in the job and left with no time at the end of the day. I suggested him to cultivate the habit of saying “NO” to some of unwanted things.
This is going to cost you lot if you continue to do Yes for everything.
This is how majority of people live their lives. It is applicable not only in the job, it may be in their business or self- employment or personal life etc
Some reasons why people say “ Yes”
- They want to please people.
- They want to please their boss
- They want to please their customers.
- They want to please their friends.
- Spending time endlessly with friends and relatives on casual talk on things don’t matter
- Spending time on Social Media and TV
When you learn to say ” NO’ to things that don’t matter to you and your life, you will be able to focus on your productive work and cut down all un necessary things.
Keep doing this for next 21 days, you will understand the power of “NO”
Learn to say “NO”.
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This is very true. One has to cultivate this habit sometime in their life. You have brought it out in your article very nicely.
Yes Niranjan. If we try to do things beyond limits, sometimes emotions overtake and even if we complete the job, we may not be satisfied unless it aligns with personal goal.
Pleasing is not the goal of life. We need to align emotions, personal goals.
True, Gayatri